Question:
Hello
I was recently called foe shidduch information about a guy that I know from yeshiva. The caller asked if I would consider him a considerate person. I wouldn’t describe this guy as considerate and I feel he is sometimes a little inconsiderate. How should I go about answering these types of questions when they specifically ask about a trait that is not the persons strong point?
Answer:
It sounds like this person is not terribly inconsiderate, but rather this is not the trait he excels in. In that case the safest thing would be to say just that, I don’t see him as an exceptionally considerate person, rather closer to average. It is not clear that slightly inconsiderate is a fault which should be shared as is, as it could be taken out of context.
Sources:
See here for an extensive discussion on this topic and it’s ramifications in halacha.
