If my wife wants a divorce is the bais din mechuyiv to try & stop it from taking place? I have allways heard that a get is nechrav the mizbayach so how if a woman (or man for that matter) wants out can they just say – OK –
Everything depends on the circumstances. There are circumstances in which a woman can legitimately “file for divorce,” and the husband is obligated to give her a get. Under ordinary circumstances, when things aren’t working out as they should, the first step taken by Beis Din is to advise the couple to seek guidance/therapy, often suggesting a person or organization that might be able to help. Getting divorced is considered a last resort, and the mizbeiach shedding tears over the divorce (of a person’s first wife; Gittin 90b) is one factor in this.