Where does it say that after a woman gets married her obligations in “kibud av v’em” became less and the kibud of her husband comes first? (For sure issues of “fear” or refraining from doing certain things — like sitting in their place. Or continuing to do certain things like to stand for them, etc do apply. However the kibbud aspect, like listening to her husband over her parents becomes the main thing.) Where does it say that?
The source for this is the Gemara in Kiddush (30b) which states that a married woman is exempt from Kibbud (though the is obligated in Mora) because “reshus acheirim (Rashi explains this refers to her husband) aleha.”
This halachah is ruled by the poskim, who add that where a husband is not particular about this, she is fully obligated in honoring her parents.