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Kriyah over Close Friend

When one hears of the death (after 120) of a friend who is one’s yedid nefesh does one do kriyah. If yes when and how.


One does not generally to kriyah over somebody who is not a close relative.

The halachah of kriyah is specific to a relative over whom one sits shiva, or for one’s close rabbi and mentor (Yoreh De’ah 242:25; see also Moed Katan 24).

Although we also find tearing clothes as a general expression of pain and loss (such as the Tribes, or Mordechai in Megilas Esther), this is not customary today, and certainly not in public.

Best wishes.

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