Question:
If someone is in the year of aveilus for a parent may the person send a cake or fruit platter in honor of someone's simcha as a way of participating in the simcha or is this considered giving a gift which would not be permitted.
Answer:
Since we are noheg that an avel may greet people during the 12 months, therefore he may also give presents, however they shouldn’t be very fancy.
Sources:
Rema 385-3, Taz O:CH 696-3, M:B 696-21 that if the minhag is to greet an avel during the year, then it is permitted. R’ Y. Cahen shlit”a.
Additional reading:
- Receiving Workplace Gifts during the Year of Mourning for a Parent
- Avel visiting married children
- Does an Ovel daven for the omud on Rosh Chodesh
- Accepting gifts during the first year of mourning
- ovel attending grandsons barmitzvah
- Can I invite guests for shabbat meal during year of avelut for my father
- Watching TV/playing games on tablet during Shloshim and the year