Question:
Is there a specific bracha for the Kallah that the father and father-in-law give at the Bedecken before the Chupah? Some seem to only say a few words and others seem to say long Tefillot. But they all mumble silently, so it is hard to know what is commonly said.
Answer:
There isn’t any specific text that should be said for this bracha and each person should give a bracha according to what he thinks is correct. The main thing is to give a bracha that the shidduch should work out well, with everything that they need. Some people give the bracha that a father blesses his children before Yom Kippur, Others say the bracha that Lavan gave Rivkah before she left with Eliezer, “ at heyee l’alfei revava…”, since this is one of the sources for giving a bracha before the chuppah.
This bracha doesn’t have to be given specifically after the bedeken. In places that the kallah goes to the kallah’s room before the chuppah, it can be given there also.
Sources:
Siddur Yaavetz, Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 147-3.
I would like to comment on my experience marrying off two of my daughters within 3 months of each other: All the happiness and good food aside,
To me the most powerful moment of the whole wedding is when I had to bless my two daughters two separate wedding and I had the same reaction both times: I felt as put my hands on their heads- not too hard it would mess up their hair, I felt charged with electricity and maybe it was then all the neshamis came down to join us…how could I not cry, feeling such a spiritual moment. This was my experience. Comments welcome🙏🏼
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