Question:
How seriously should one take the tos and tos harosh in kesuvos daf 2b(at the top) D”H “matziah..”- in which they say that a wife is a “field” of her husband and therefore everything that happens to her is because of the husband. The Tos’ Harosh says ” a woman…. is dependant on his mazal”.
Seemingly a woman has free will. How can her punishment be blamed on her husband. And this is not something “theoretical” – because it is enough to be motzee mamon from her husband! ( Rashi clearly gives a different answer to tos’ kashia).Moreover by the logic of Tos’ we should say that all the good that is bestowed upon her is also because of her husband, which sounds as difficult as my first difficulty.
Thanks
Answer:
My apologies but you are taking Tosefos way out of context. The gemora not saying that she is “mazal-less”, and the gemora is not saying that “whatever” happens to her is his fault, rather only is this specific instance. The issue here is since the husband has already betroth her therefore essentially takes responsibility to feed her from the prescribed date, therefore her grocery bills would be his expense. If something happens to her, and he can’t marry her now, the gemora is deliberating, do we say that it is his “mazal”. meaning it is considered his punishment from heaven that this happened, and as Tosefos explains, that it is clear that it is his loss since he is the one that is losing out on the mitzva of pru urvu. Therefore, since in certain aspects we see that he i the one losing here, there she can say that although the “ones” happens to her, it is meant as his punishment, and he still has to fulfill his obligations to her. What the Tosefos Harosh is saying is similar, since he is the one obligated to take care of his wife’s financial needs, the same way he is obligated to care for everything else under his jurisdiction, therefore it is considered his punishment and not her’s.
Gmar chasima tova
