Metal spoon pareve was in sink with greasy meat dishes with cold water and then used to mix grain cooking with hot water in pareve pot. Do any of the dishes need to be kashered to make them pareve again? Don’t want them to be for meat.
The pot is definitely still parve.
Regarding the spoon- the spoon is still parve unless it soaked for more than 24 hours together with the greasy dishes and there was not a lot of soap.
All the best
Pot- Y:D 95:3
Spoon- Y:D 105:1
Soap- Y:D 95:4 and Nekudas Hakesef