Informing others the one had 3 previous broken engagements

Question:

Does a 28 year Frum girl have to inform everyone involved in a future Shidduch that she had 3 previous broken engagements al pi halacha?
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The following is what our family have been told so far. Please confirm the following halacha(s) as soon as possible;
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1. Some Shadchanim have told our family, that al pi halacha, a young frum girl with three prior broken engagements is required to inform a prospective shidduch of this, before things get serious. The specific timing and manner of disclosure is unclear to ur family as of this writing.
2. Other Shadchanim have also told our family, that if any friend and/or family member of a future shidduch directly asks our family about previous engagements, a truthful answer is required al pi halacha.
3. Still other Shadchanim have also told our family that not informing any Shadchan about my Niece’s prior engagements is al pi halacha viewed as a form of geneivat da'at (deception).

The following are additional facts that must be taken into account:

1. There were no formal Te'naim in any of the engagements. However, their was an engagement party between the families in all 3 engagements.
2. A Joint Mechila (formal forgiveness) was only done in the 2nd engagement.
3. In the 1st engagement, our family requested a Star Mechila from the Chosen's family, who broke off the engagement, but the other family
   refused and indicated that the Chosen could not have children, because of medical conditions and/or psychological issues.
4. In the 3rd engagement, the Chosen's family broke off the engagement 2 weeks before the wedding. Apparently, a member of our family said
   something that offended the Chosen's Father. In addition, the Chosen may have had a serious Genetic issue in his family. I personally informed my Neice about this 3 weeks before the wedding, Nonetheless, my Neice was willing to go through with the wedding.

Answer:

Hello,

1. What the Shadchanim told you is correct, that you would have to disclose what happened, but not at the beginning, and before things are serious. It should be done in a way that is not going to incriminate the other side, rather you can say, that the first one was broken, from the other side apparently due to some minor medical issue that they had. And the third was broken apparently due to an issue that was not related to the girl herself.
2. If the other side of a potential shidduch will ask specifically about the broken engagement, the truth must be said as we may not lie about it.
3. Without getting into the issue if it technically geneivas daas or not, if you are going to go to a shadchan, to help you find a shidduch for her, it is not smart or practical or smart, to hide it, because they will eventually find out and will be upset with you. If however someone approaches you and tells you that they have a shidduch for you, you don’t have to say anything to them.

IY”H hashem should send you niece her bashert very soon, and as a side point, I discussed your question with a big talmid chacham, and while we were talking about it, he suggested that we say some Tehillim that you niece should find her bashert, which we did.

May we hear besuros tovos in the near future