Shehechayanu on turning 60 on Shabbos Chazon

Question:

Lichvod HaRav,

I have a shailah and wondering what the rav thinks.

My father is iy'H turning 60 next Shabbos (Shabbos Chazon).

I know there is a discussion in the poskim if one should make shehechayanu upon turning 60. The Chavas Yair (70) holds one should, the Chasam Sofer (Orach Chaim 225:1) writes to do so without Shem u'Malchus, and the Ben Ish Chai (Year 1, Re'eh 9) and the Kaf HaChaim (223:28) should pater it with a new suit or a new fruit.

I am wondering the following:

1) The Bach (Orach Chaim 29) writes that:

אבל לפע"ד דאיכא לחלק בין ברכת שהחיינו לשאר ברכות דברכת שהחיינו שבאה על שמחת לבו של אדם יכול לברך אע"פ שאינו ודאי דחייב לברך דאינו עובר על לא תשא אם הוא שמח ומברך לו יתעלה על שהחייהו וקיימו עד הזמן הזה

is this enough reason to allow one to recite shehechayanu upon turning sixty?

2) Assuming that it is, if the birthday is on Shabbos Chazon, is one still able to recite shehechayanu being that one should avoid reciting shehechayanu in the three weeks.

Is the fact that it is an opportunity that will pass a reason for leniency?

3) My father is in the year of aveilus, which is further reason to avoid shehechayanu.

Please advise if there is reason to allow reciting shehechayanu, or if it should be avoided

Kol Tuv

Answer:

Hello,

I discussed your question with a big Rov, and he told me that the minhag is not to say shehechiyanu, so you wouldn’t have the issue. However, on the day your father turns 60, he should have extra kavana when saying modim d’rabonon (during chazoras hashatz). When he says the words “al shehechiyisonu, kein tichayeynu usikayimeinu,” we are then thanking Hashem, “this that you kept us alive, and keep on giving us life…”

Your father should be zoche to arichas yomim