Question: Is it good/permissible to make a deal with Hashem? Example: “I will learn an hour every shabbos for a month if I get above a 90 on my exam… Read more »
Category: Vows and oaths
“Giving” Merits to someone else for healing
Question: Hello, I recently said casually while watching an online Torah class that mentioned a sick boy, that the merits of my learning (meaning and intending that the merits of… Read more »
Kol Nidre for unmarried women
Question: Hello, My question is if an unmarried lady is present for the Kol Nidre service and is present while the congregation does the process of annulling vows, however she… Read more »
When does a thoughts to do something become binding.
Question: I have anxiety and diagnosed with high functioning autism, so automatic thoughts and repetitive actions (including thoughts) is an aggravating part of my life. I think about chumros and… Read more »
tzitzis on Shabbos
Question: If a person does not wear tzitzis on Shabbos (this was the opinion and custom of the Brisker Rav zt”l and his talmidim), and he announced to other people… Read more »
Not specifying a neder
Question: I did Hataras Nedarim on erev R”H and was thinking of a few specific nedarim that I had made throughout the year. However, I was not able to specify… Read more »
Hatas Nedarim – Privacy
Question: Hi, An addendum to my previous question is – I am obligated to explain to the three people what the kabala/neder was and why I couldn’t keep it even… Read more »
Chance of slight mis understanding of what Kol Nidre is supposed to do.
Question: Thanks for answering questions I sent you. It makes me feel better. I remember when i first learned about Kol Nidre it nullifies vows in the past. Then I… Read more »
Follow uop question to Kol Nidre
Question: Okay thanks. I read as long as I did not think of the kol nidre stipulation at the time of saying the vow I should be safe. There is… Read more »
The need to fully understand Kol Nidre
Question: Sometimes my anxiety lead me to “bargaining with G-d” saying I will do so and so to either make something happen or I will do it if something happens…. Read more »
Thinking about controlling anger and vows.
Question: I thought in my head to control my anger by saying hello to my husband nicely when I come home as well as to not show my annoyance with… Read more »
Nezirus
Question: I have an odd question that is unfortunately l’maase. For reasons that I cannot explain, I impulsively decided to make a neder for nezirus shimshon with the intention of… Read more »
Kabalah with a Neder
Question: Hi, About 7 months ago I made a kabalah WITHOUT saying “bli neder” and it ended up being a kabalah that I was not able to keep (as of… Read more »
Sleeping with feet towards the door
Question: Is there a clear source for the Minhag/Issur to sleep with feet facing the door? If there is substance, then is a cupboard or armchair or suitcase etc between… Read more »
Annulling Vows Collectively
Question: If one has more than one neder/vow to nullify, can he nullify them all together? As in: Mention all the nedarim. Say the he regrets all of them, and… Read more »
Annulling Unfulfilled Vow
Question: Hi, I have a question regarding nedarim. Back when I was a young bochur, I was very intense, and one time i made a neder to lean maseches peah… Read more »
Oaths and Vows
Shalom, If one did not know the halacha that a minhag tova or saying to do a mitzvah is a neder automatically, and if he would have known he would… Read more »
Hatarat Nedarim at Night
Ketiva V’Chatima Tova. Can Hatarat Nedarim be performed at night? Thank you. Answer: Yes, this is fine. Hataras Nedarim does not have the full status of a Beis Din procedure,… Read more »
Neder Made by Eleven Year Old Girl
An 11 year old girl made a neder that if she finds something she was missing she’ll give 20 agarot to tzedeka every week (seemingly for the rest of her… Read more »
Neder for a Period
I made a certain neder and at the same ‘ma’mad” I said that the neder should be till a certain time only I do not remember if it was toch… Read more »
When Do We Need Hataras Nedarim
If one decided and said that one will not buy a certain vitamin and then after further research decided to buy a vitamin does one need to matir neder. b)… Read more »
Hataras Nedarim for 12+
Already from 12 years old the nedarim of a boy are considered to be nedarim. Why is it then that they don’t make Heteres nedarim on Erev Rosh HaShanah? (Perhaps… Read more »
Paying Somebody’s Neder
If a person (Reuven) makes a neder/nedevah to a shul for a certain amount of money (for example when buying an aliyah) and someone else (Shimon) comes along and offers… Read more »
Saying “I am a Nazir”
If one said “I am a nazir” without any intention of becoming a nazir (rather jokingly in response to a comment made to him about his hair being long), what… Read more »
Hataras Nedarim for Cutting Both Challos
i have been makpid on the shitas Hagr”a for years by Hamotzi to cut both challas, but now i see that it is getting too much monetarily to handle, as… Read more »