Question: I am interested in joining a club that has has an application. The application has a paragraph stating that “I promise to do XYZ”. I intend to do it,… Read more »
Category: Vows and oaths
Should I still say bli neder?
Question: Due to my frequently making nedorim/shevo’us when angry and then regretting them, my Rov told me to say “any neder or shavuoh that I make should not take effect”… Read more »
Nazir permitted or required to drink wine after Nazirus
Question: Is the Nazir at the end of his term permitted or required to drink wine? Answer: He has to cut his hair at the end of his nezirus, because… Read more »
Hataras Nedarim
Question: 1) if I spaced out for a couple of words by hataras nedarim – but I knew the general inyon of what i was saying is that fine? Or… Read more »
Mesiros Modah
Question: If one will not have 3 people with him, can he say the moser modah privately to himself? Answer: Yes he can say it privately, although it is better… Read more »
Annul Vow Emergency Important
Question: How can a Noahide have a vow annulled? I do not want to sin by breaking them. In a moment if weakness, I vowed or promised I would not… Read more »
How can I annul a vow
Question: I made vows that I feel might have been due to OCD, but I want to keep them so as not to sin. I would like them annulled though…. Read more »
nedarim
Question: Shalom thank you for answering my questions so quickly. Do I need to say bli neder after I say I am going to do something or I will? If… Read more »
Vows/Promises to Hashem
Question: I have OCD/Anxiety Disorder and Hypochondria. A few years back, I got my hair dyed. I had read a story about a woman who suffered a severe allergic reaction… Read more »
Severe OCD, disturbing thoughts of vows and oaths, accidentally saying “yeah”
Question: I keep getting disturbing, unwanted thoughts of vows and oaths I for sure never want to keep because they are so horrible. I made sure never to verbalize them…. Read more »
Vow to God to not cut my hair
Question: Hello, I made a vow to God to not cut my hair. I am regretful of this vow because I would like to cut it. I know in the… Read more »
Can someone come a nazir if he thinks about it
Question: Can someone come a nazir if he thinks about it Answer: A person cannot become a nazir simply by thinking about becoming a nazir. Becoming a nazir needs that… Read more »
Promises/Oaths — intent vs words
Question: BS”D Kavod HaRav If someone makes a oath/ promise to do or not to do something and they say “for the rest of the week” but they have in… Read more »
Going to the kosel
Question: I have been going to the kosel twice a year on Pesach and Sukkos for a number of years as I read that this is a remembrance to aliyah… Read more »
Hatarat Nedarim
Question: I was matir several kabbolos recently. I wanted to be matir several of the kabbolos together, and one of them separately. I told one person all the details and… Read more »
Eating by a נדר
Question: If one makes a נדר not to eat and he drinks less then an ounce, is he חייב A.) Is drinking included in his vow at all B.) Is… Read more »
neder?
Question: I said on Simchas Torah that I would finish Horayos by Zos Chanukah. However, it looks like I will need an extension. I do not remember if I said… Read more »
neder/promise made out of fear” (question id #45194)”
Question: 1- The promise was regarding a head covering. (instead of a wig I said I’ll wear a tichel) 2- What’s bothering me is that because I was so terrified… Read more »
“neder/promise made out of fear” (question id #45194)
Question: and one more question, does my Rav have to know details of the fear/phobia or is it enough that i say that i had a phobia? it is kind… Read more »
zmanim hataras nedarim ocd
Question: as a preface to the question i do have ocd…..i hold 72 minutes after shkiya for zmanim…. i was discussing with people on shabbos another shita and as an… Read more »
Is it good/permissible to make a deal with Hashem?
Question: Is it good/permissible to make a deal with Hashem? Example: “I will learn an hour every shabbos for a month if I get above a 90 on my exam… Read more »
“Giving” Merits to someone else for healing
Question: Hello, I recently said casually while watching an online Torah class that mentioned a sick boy, that the merits of my learning (meaning and intending that the merits of… Read more »
Kol Nidre for unmarried women
Question: Hello, My question is if an unmarried lady is present for the Kol Nidre service and is present while the congregation does the process of annulling vows, however she… Read more »
When does a thoughts to do something become binding.
Question: I have anxiety and diagnosed with high functioning autism, so automatic thoughts and repetitive actions (including thoughts) is an aggravating part of my life. I think about chumros and… Read more »
tzitzis on Shabbos
Question: If a person does not wear tzitzis on Shabbos (this was the opinion and custom of the Brisker Rav zt”l and his talmidim), and he announced to other people… Read more »
Not specifying a neder
Question: I did Hataras Nedarim on erev R”H and was thinking of a few specific nedarim that I had made throughout the year. However, I was not able to specify… Read more »
Hatas Nedarim – Privacy
Question: Hi, An addendum to my previous question is – I am obligated to explain to the three people what the kabala/neder was and why I couldn’t keep it even… Read more »
Chance of slight mis understanding of what Kol Nidre is supposed to do.
Question: Thanks for answering questions I sent you. It makes me feel better. I remember when i first learned about Kol Nidre it nullifies vows in the past. Then I… Read more »
Follow uop question to Kol Nidre
Question: Okay thanks. I read as long as I did not think of the kol nidre stipulation at the time of saying the vow I should be safe. There is… Read more »
The need to fully understand Kol Nidre
Question: Sometimes my anxiety lead me to “bargaining with G-d” saying I will do so and so to either make something happen or I will do it if something happens…. Read more »
Thinking about controlling anger and vows.
Question: I thought in my head to control my anger by saying hello to my husband nicely when I come home as well as to not show my annoyance with… Read more »
Nezirus
Question: I have an odd question that is unfortunately l’maase. For reasons that I cannot explain, I impulsively decided to make a neder for nezirus shimshon with the intention of… Read more »
Kabalah with a Neder
Question: Hi, About 7 months ago I made a kabalah WITHOUT saying “bli neder” and it ended up being a kabalah that I was not able to keep (as of… Read more »
Sleeping with feet towards the door
Question: Is there a clear source for the Minhag/Issur to sleep with feet facing the door? If there is substance, then is a cupboard or armchair or suitcase etc between… Read more »
Annulling Vows Collectively
Question: If one has more than one neder/vow to nullify, can he nullify them all together? As in: Mention all the nedarim. Say the he regrets all of them, and… Read more »
Annulling Unfulfilled Vow
Question: Hi, I have a question regarding nedarim. Back when I was a young bochur, I was very intense, and one time i made a neder to lean maseches peah… Read more »
Oaths and Vows
Shalom, If one did not know the halacha that a minhag tova or saying to do a mitzvah is a neder automatically, and if he would have known he would… Read more »
Hatarat Nedarim at Night
Ketiva V’Chatima Tova. Can Hatarat Nedarim be performed at night? Thank you. Answer: Yes, this is fine. Hataras Nedarim does not have the full status of a Beis Din procedure,… Read more »
Neder Made by Eleven Year Old Girl
An 11 year old girl made a neder that if she finds something she was missing she’ll give 20 agarot to tzedeka every week (seemingly for the rest of her… Read more »
Neder for a Period
I made a certain neder and at the same ‘ma’mad” I said that the neder should be till a certain time only I do not remember if it was toch… Read more »
When Do We Need Hataras Nedarim
If one decided and said that one will not buy a certain vitamin and then after further research decided to buy a vitamin does one need to matir neder. b)… Read more »
Hataras Nedarim for 12+
Already from 12 years old the nedarim of a boy are considered to be nedarim. Why is it then that they don’t make Heteres nedarim on Erev Rosh HaShanah? (Perhaps… Read more »
Paying Somebody’s Neder
If a person (Reuven) makes a neder/nedevah to a shul for a certain amount of money (for example when buying an aliyah) and someone else (Shimon) comes along and offers… Read more »
Saying “I am a Nazir”
If one said “I am a nazir” without any intention of becoming a nazir (rather jokingly in response to a comment made to him about his hair being long), what… Read more »
Hataras Nedarim for Cutting Both Challos
i have been makpid on the shitas Hagr”a for years by Hamotzi to cut both challas, but now i see that it is getting too much monetarily to handle, as… Read more »