Question: Apart from Chol HaMoed, are there any other dates that it is not recommended to arrange a matzeivah? Answer: To do the actual erecting and say tehillim at that… Read more »
Category: Visiting the grave
Unveiling between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur
Question: My wife and daughter passed away in mid-October of 2018. We are thinking of having the unveiling of their tombstones on Sunday, Oct. 6th 2019 – which falls during… Read more »
Spelling out the name of the niftar by a matzeivah
Question: when one says tehillim by a matzeivah spelling out the name of the niftar, does one spell out the name of the father too, i.e. ploni ben ploni or… Read more »
Mother’s name on matzeva and not father’s name
Question: I recently saw many tombstone inscriptions from Bratislava (Pressburg), and all mention the mother’s name and not the father. I’d like to know the source & origin of the… Read more »
Visiting a kever
Question: Does a child in a year of aveilut for a parent visit their grave before Yom Kippur? Answer: A child may go to the grave of a parent during… Read more »
What are the guidelines for how often one may visit a jewish cemetery?
Question: What are the guidelines for how often one may visit a jewish cemetery? Is there a difference for kivrei tzadikim? I heard one should not go more then once… Read more »
Unveiling
Question: I thought a child was not supposed to go to the cemetery during the first year after the death of their parent. How doe this work with an unveiling?… Read more »
Purim Yarzheit
Question: My mother died last Purim morning. We were planning on getting a minyan together to say kaddish on Purim morning. Is this allowed because it is Purim day? If… Read more »
Candle when Matzeivah is not up yet
Question: When I go to visit the cemetary on the day of the sheloshim, there will not yet be a matzeviah up. There is only a small wooden sign marking… Read more »
Visiting Cemetery on Chol hamoed
Question: Can you visit the cemetery between the first two days of Succos and Simchas Torah? Answer: The minhag is not to visit the cemetery during Chol Hamoed. Therefore you… Read more »
May I visit my mothers grave Friday -Her yurzeit is shabboss
Question: May I visit my mother’s grave on Friday – her yurzeit is shabbos Answer: Yes, but it should preferably be done before chatzos.
Didn’t visit kever in ten years
Question: If someone has not visit his parent’s kever within 10 years is there a minhag not to go anymore? Answer: There are seforim (Taamei Haminhagim 1070 from the Divrei… Read more »
Mazava for child
Question: Should one or does one need to put up a Mazava for a child who died. And if not from what age should one put a mazava up. Answer:… Read more »
Going to the Kever on Shloshim
Question: If the mishpacha is not erecting the matzeiva at the Shloshim, are they still required to go to the Kever? The family went when they got up from Shiva…. Read more »