6 months ago I gave my wife a get. We have been living seperately, me in New York, her in Virginia. Our 2 sons are with me.
For the last month and half, we’ve been talking about trying to work things out and get remarried. A lot of factors involved in that. She came up to NY to visit and we went on a couple dates. There’s possibility it could happen, still also a lot of hesitancy from both of us.
Next week me and the 2 boys are driving down to VA to visit her for a week. She wants me to stay in her appartment with the 2 boys. It’s a 2 bedroom, she has a room, the boys have a room, and I would sleep in the living room (or in the boys room I guess.)
Is this at all permissible?? Or should one finding another place to stay?
Answer:
You should not be staying in the same house. In general, you may not be in seclusion with her. However, meeting for the purpose of possible remarriage would be permitted [without this purpose, it is in fact prohibited to maintain any relationship with a divorced spouse].
Sources:
See Shulchan Aruch E:H 119, 7-9. Shu”t Raanach 58
