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Answering Questions in Shidduchim



I was recently called foe shidduch information about a guy that I know from yeshiva. The caller asked if I would consider him a considerate person. I wouldn’t describe this guy as considerate and I feel he is sometimes a little inconsiderate. How should I go about answering these types of questions when they specifically ask about a trait that is not the persons strong point?


It sounds like this person is not terribly inconsiderate, but rather this is not the trait he excels in. In that case the safest thing would be to say just that, I don’t see him as an exceptionally considerate person, rather closer to average. It is not clear that slightly inconsiderate is a fault which should be shared as is, as it could be taken out of context.



See here for an extensive discussion on this topic and it’s ramifications in halacha.


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