According to normal Orthodox Rabbanim, is birth control permitted? I am IY”H getting engaged soon and want to have kids, but not right away and not so close together. Is it permitted?
Mazal tov for your engagement!
Most authorities permit birth control under certain circumstances, but certainly not as a blanket heiter. See Minchas Yitzchak 3:26, Levush Mordechai Even Ha’ezer 1:28, Tzitz Eliezer (9:51, medical matters 2), among others.
In particular, birth control before fufilling the mitzvah of p’ru ur’vu is not usually authorized, unless there are truly exceptional circumstances.
If the only reason is for general comfort, and the more so before fulfilling p’ru ur’vu, no Orthodox Rabbi will permit the use of birth control. As the Rambam writes (Ishus 15:1), there is a concrete obligation to try to have children, and use of birth control will not be authorized.
You may have fear as to your education, work, money and so on, and therefore prefer to postpone childbirth until later.
From experience, however, this approach does not pay off. There are always reasons to postpone; life is always “easier” without children. Yet, the joy of children brings an entire world to a person’s life, and with a positive attitude, many, many young couples have succeeded in juggling other occupations with bringing children to the world.
Best wishes and much success.