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Honoring parent by losing game

Question:

B”H
How should it be handled when playing a board game with a parent? Should one intentionally lose to honor the parent, or should one play to win so as to be honest? If it is ok to not win on purpose and the parent asks the child if they are intentionally losing, may they lie and say they are not intentionally losing?
Thank you for your help

Answer:

That is very nice and kind of you to want to lose in order to make your parent feel good. It is not dishonest to lose, because you never told your parent that you tried your hardest… However, be careful that the parent doesn’t get wind of this, because then it will cause them embarrassment. If your parent does ask you, try to answer tactfully without lying directly, but if you have no choice, you can in order not to embarrass them.  

Best wishes

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