If my parent tells me to educate my children a certain way and I don’t agree with it, must I listen to them anyway? What if their opinion conflicts with what my spouse feels as well is best for our children?
Thank you for your question.
It is difficult to give a definitive answer without knowing the specifics of your question, but in general, if you and your wife feel that your parent’s opinion on how to educate your children is incorrect and detrimental for them you do not have to obey.
Hamakneh Kiddushin 32b, Mora Horim Vkibbudom in the name of R’ Eliyashiv and R’ B. Z. Abba Shaul zt”l.