Question: My father passed away last week and was buried on 20 March 2020. The Shiva has just ended and the Shloshim would usually end on 18 April (I think)… Read more »
Category: Thirty days of mourning
When would Shloshim Be
Question: My uncle was buried the first second day of Succos (on Yom Tov itself). When would the shloshim be? Answer: The morning of 20th of Cheshvan would be the… Read more »
Grandmother during sheloshim at grandchild’s vort
Question: Can a women in Avelus still in the shloshim for her father go to a granddaughters vort and if yes can she have a manicure and get her face… Read more »
Calculating Sheloshim
Question: I cannot determine whether Pesach ended my period of Sheloshim or not. I believe it has to do with whether or not my period of shiva had already ended…. Read more »
Granddaughter wedding
Question: If a grandmother dies, can a granddaughter have music at her wedding after shiva but before shloshim Answer: Please see the following post. https://dinonline.org/2019/03/22/avel-and-daughters-wedding/ Best Wishes Sources:
Avel and daughters wedding
Question: Can an avel be at his daughters wedding that has music, after shiva before shloshim? Answer: Hamakom yinachem eschem btoch shar aveili tzion vyerushlayim. Regarding your question, the father… Read more »
Calulating shloshim
Question: My parent died at moon on the 8th of shevat and was buried at noon on the 9 th of shvat. What is the final day of shloshim Answer:… Read more »
When is shloshim?
Question: My mother was buried on June 19 , 2018 in morning in USA. When is shloshim? Answer: Hamakom yinachem eschem b’toch shar aveilei tzion v’yerushalayim. The shloshim is calculated… Read more »
Calculating shloshim
Question: My father was niftar on ב תמוזand was buried on ה תמוז When is shloshim? I think it may fall on Shabbas-if this is the case should we go… Read more »
Number of people that I can eat with
Question: When going to a restaurant for dinner how many couples can accompany me and my husband. I am in shloshim for my brother Answer: It isn’t a question of… Read more »
My mother died April2,2018. Funeral April 4. Sjiva over April 11.
Question: When is shloshim finished Answer: Hamakom Yinachem eschem b;toch sharaveilei tzion v’yirushalayim. Regarding your question, the sholoshim are calculated according to when the funeral was, therefore I am assuming… Read more »
Shloshim calculating
Question: Thank you very much for your support My sister passed away last Friday in Israel March 23 .2018 buried in Israel Sunday 25 We start shiva Sunday morning March… Read more »
Buying items for the home during shloshim for a parent
Question: Can I purchase a new coffee maker if it is on sale now? It is something I want, not a necessity. Husband will also use it. Answer: It is… Read more »
May I go away for a family vacation/shabbos during shloshim for my mom
Question: May I go away for a family vacation/shabbos during the shloshim for my mom.We usually go away only in the summer as the kids are off and wont be… Read more »
Buying a new shaitel
Question: Can I buy a sheitel during the shiloshim for my Mother Answer: Hamakom Yinachem Eschem b’toal aveilei tzion v’yerushalayim Regarding your question, the minhag is that an avel doesn’t… Read more »
Swimming/ going to the beach or pool during after shiva
Question: Can one mourning a parent swim after the shiva period/ during the 30 day or 12 month? Answer: During shloshim the avel should not go swimming if it is… Read more »
Does Shavuot take over Shloshim? May I shave and cut my nails?
Question: I am in Shloshim for my mother. I have been told that for a parent, Shavuot does not take over Sheloshim and I may still not shave or cut… Read more »
Does Lag B’omer allow someone in shloshim to shave?
Question: Does Lag B’omer allow someone in shloshim to shave? ie break the shloshim? Answer: Lag Baomer is the culmination or breaking of the aveilus for the talmidim of R’… Read more »
Mourning for a spouse
Question: May a spouse observe mourning beyond shloshim. I feel that 30 days is not enough for my husband after 56 years of marriage. Answer: Losing a spouse after 56… Read more »
Calculating Sheloshim
Question: My Mother passed on Chol Hamoed Pesach (April 13th – 17th Nissan) and I need help calculating sheloshim. Please and thank you. Answer: The shloshim is counted from the… Read more »
shloshim for parent/ pesach
Question: A person is in “SHLOSHIM” for a parent. Pesach occurs during “SHLOSHIM”. Can a person take a haircut, shave and cut nails on EREV PESACH? Can a person send… Read more »
Can I get my eyebrows waxed during the shloshim?
Question: Can I get my eyebrows waxed during the shloshim? Answer: A married woman, or a woman that is looking for a shudduch that is in aveilus of shloshim may… Read more »
Attending a wedding during sheloshim
Question: Is one who is still in the sheloshim for one’s father allowed to attend a wedding l’chatchila? Can one attend only the chupah or is it best not to… Read more »
Gifts during sheloshim
Question: Is one allowed to give or receive gifts during the sheloshim for a parent. What is considered a gift? Can an avel send a cake to a neighbor to… Read more »
Need help calculating date of shloshim
Question: If the date of burial was May 23, 2016, when does shloshim fall? Shavuot falls within 30 days. Does that change the determination of the date of shloshim? Answer:… Read more »