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  • Seven days of mourning

availus

Question: Hi My Mother is sitting Shiva On a Friday , Can I shower and Shave for Shabbos ? Based on כל שמתאבל אליו מתאבל אמו Answer: If you are… Read more »

Seven days of mourning aveilus
29/01/2021
  • Year of mourning

Year of mourning for a parent, buying used clothes

Question: My father passed away six months ago. May I buy and wear second hand skirts, they look new to me, and I usually buy clothes in second hand shops…. Read more »

Year of mourning
06/01/2021
  • Seven days of mourning

My mother is sitting Shiva for a sister

Question: My mother is sitting Shiva for a sister. May I take a shower? Answer: If you are in the same city as your mother then you should not shower… Read more »

Seven days of mourning shiva
08/12/2020
  • Year of mourning

Eating a meal with others outside my home during aveilus

Question: I am in the year of aveilut for a parent. My mother-in-law does not understand many of the halachot of aveilut. She comes to us all the time but… Read more »

Year of mourning aveilus
07/12/2020
  • Funeral and burial

Kriyah when a relative is reinterred

Question: Shalom, if a long dead relative, in whom Keriyah was made, and his body needs to be transported from that place to another, after a long time, by the… Read more »

Funeral and burial burial
06/12/2020
  • Year of mourning

Sale item during year of aveilus

Question: Can you buy an item (that brings you joy) during the year of aveilus – if it’s on sale and you don’t think will be available for that price… Read more »

Year of mourning buying clothes during aveilus
17/11/2020
  • Cemetery

Kovod HaMes (Honoring the Dead) and keeping the monument grassy

Question: My wife and I live in Eretz Yisroel with all our children et al. We have no family in America. As we are older, we no longer travel back… Read more »

Cemetery Cemetery monument
13/10/2020
  • Cemetery

Purchased a grave but was not buried in it.

Question: A certain man purchased a grave in our cemetery, he moved away and was buried in another cemetery. His family was asked what should be done with his plot… Read more »

Cemetery cemetary theft
07/09/2020
  • Mourning and burial

Din on family after family member passes

Question: Regarding my previous question about din on a family after a death, again I was told that having a baby lifts the din? Where can I read more about… Read more »

Mourning and burial mourning
30/08/2020
  • Funeral and burial

Curse when family member dies?

Question: Hi again, I was told that when a family member passes away in Judaism , it means there’s a curse on the family? What exactly does this mean? And… Read more »

Funeral and burial aveilus
28/08/2020
  • Year of mourning

Are pajamas considered an article of clothing for aveilus?

Question: Are pajamas or a nightgown considered an article of clothing for aveilus? Answer: My assumption is that you mean to ask if an avel is allowed to wear a… Read more »

Year of mourning Avel in year new clothes
13/07/2020
  • Year of mourning

Can I attend a levaya during year of mourning my mother?

Question: My mother died 3 months ago. Can I attend a close family friend’s funeral? Answer: Hamakom yinachem eshchem btoch shar aveilei Zion V’yerushalayim. Yes you can. There is no… Read more »

Year of mourning Avel in year funeral.
09/07/2020
  • Mourning and burial

Does a nefel have a nefesh

Question: Is there an inyan to say tehilim or give tzedaka or do mitzvos liluyi nishmas a nefel (who was given a name and buried) or is it considered in… Read more »

Mourning and burial kaddish
18/06/2020
  • Thirty days of mourning

Calculating Shloshim after Shevuos

Question: Shiva for my father began during the day on Sunday, May 24, 2020. Shavuos “stopped the Shiva” a few days later. When will the Sh’loshim end for me, in… Read more »

Thirty days of mourning shloshim Shvuos
13/06/2020
  • Thirty days of mourning

Misibah, Hazkarah, Kaddish, Visit the grave when Yom Tov cancels Shloshim

Question: If someone passed was buried erev chag Shavuout, I understand that the spouse mourning ends before 30 calendar days (shiva 1 day=7 days + chag = 7 days, +… Read more »

Thirty days of mourning Cemetery shloshim
08/06/2020
  • Death anniversary (yahrtzeit)

Fasting when yartzheit is on Shabbos

Question: For someone who is Ashkenazi and usually fasts on one’s father’s yartzheit, if it comes out on Shabbos this year, do we not fast at all or do we… Read more »

Death anniversary (yahrtzeit) Fasting yahrzeit
04/06/2020
  • Thirty days of mourning

How long is availus for a brother?

Question: how long is availus for a brother? Answer: Hamakom yinachem eschem btoch shar aveiliy Tzion V’yerushalayiom. The aveilus period for all relative, except a parent, is for thirty days…. Read more »

Thirty days of mourning
02/06/2020
  • Year of mourning

Gifts During Aveilus

Question: Is there a manner in which I or my children may purchase for my wife a birthday gift during her year of aveilus for her father? Does it make… Read more »

Year of mourning aveilus gifts
22/05/2020
  • Year of mourning

Kaddish for 1st wife

Question: I was married for many years to my first wife who died childless. Since her death 5 years ago I have been saying Kaddish daily. I remarried almost 3… Read more »

Year of mourning kaddish Marriage
15/05/2020
  • Year of mourning

Giving Gifts to aveilim.

Question: Are you allowed to give a gift to someone that is in aveilus for their father? And if not, is a photo book considered a gift that one is… Read more »

Year of mourning aveilus gifts
09/05/2020
  • Thirty days of mourning

Calculating Shloshim

Question: My mother passed away on Shabbos haGadol, Yud Nissan (April 4) and was buried motsei Shabbos yud-alef Nissan (before midnight April 4). as Pesach interrupted shiva, has shloshim already… Read more »

Thirty days of mourning aveilus shloshim
03/05/2020
  • Visiting the grave

What dates should you avoid arranging a matzeivah?

Question: Apart from Chol HaMoed, are there any other dates that it is not recommended to arrange a matzeivah? Answer: To do the actual erecting and say tehillim at that… Read more »

Visiting the grave Grave matzeiva monument
01/05/2020
  • Seven days of mourning

When to start avelus

Question: Relative died in America. I am in Israel. Cannot go to funeral because of corona. They might consult me about burial (where to did it ect.) When does ז’… Read more »

Seven days of mourning shiva
17/04/2020
  • Thirty days of mourning

Aveilus for person who was niftar from Corona

Question: Thank you so much for your reply. This machla has been devastating to klal Yisroel. So, in regard to my question. In the Mourning in Halacha book on page… Read more »

Thirty days of mourning aveilus haircut during shloshim
06/04/2020
  • Thirty days of mourning

Shloshim ending early due to pesach?

Question: My father passed away last week and was buried on 20 March 2020. The Shiva has just ended and the Shloshim would usually end on 18 April (I think)… Read more »

Thirty days of mourning
26/03/2020
  • Seven days of mourning

Relations while parent is sitting shiva

Question: Can I have marital relations when my mother is sitting Shiva? Answer: Yes it is permitted, as the restrictions on a person who has a relative sitting shiva are… Read more »

Seven days of mourning
26/03/2020
  • Death anniversary (yahrtzeit)

haircut on a yahrzeit

Question: May I get a haircut on the day of my father’s yahrzeit? (It.s not the first one.) Many thanks Answer: It is permitted for a person to get a… Read more »

Death anniversary (yahrtzeit) aveilus yahrzeit
23/02/2020
  • Cemetery

kel moleh rachamim

Question: When making reference to the nifter during keil malei rachamim is it ploni ben/bas mother or father? Answer: Thank you for your question. The Ashkenazi minhag (including chassidim) is… Read more »

Cemetery Keil maleh rachamim
19/02/2020
  • Cemetery

What possible reasons would a burial and matzeva be moved elsewhere?

Question: My wife was nifter over two years ago. Directly behind her plot I recognized the name of a person I worked with back in the mid-1960s. My last recent… Read more »

Cemetery burial cemetary
02/02/2020
  • Death anniversary (yahrtzeit)

Aveilus

Question: On the day of my father’s Yahrzeit can i go to my grandson’s Bar Mitzvah with Music and dance? I see the Rov writes not to a chasuna, Is… Read more »

Death anniversary (yahrtzeit) Bar Mitzvah yahrzeit
21/01/2020
  • Death anniversary (yahrtzeit)

Kiddush donation for a yahrzeit

Question: The yahrzeit Of my mother a”h is Tévet 26th. What is the better minhag : to donate the breakfast at the synagogue on the yahrzeit day so brachot could… Read more »

Death anniversary (yahrtzeit) yahrzeit
13/01/2020
  • Funeral and burial

Bais Hachaim

Question: Hello, could you please provide me the source in halacha that a woman is not allowed to go to the kevurah of a niftar? I think I remember hearing… Read more »

Funeral and burial cemetary funeral.
24/12/2019
  • Seven days of mourning

Nichum Aveilim

Question: Shalom Harav I like to send a text to a rabbi who is sitting shiva who just lost his son since I can’t attend being too far what’s the… Read more »

Seven days of mourning mourner comforting
19/12/2019
  • Funeral and burial

Talit buried

Question: BS”D Shalom dear Rabbi, Question: A fearful Jew can be buried with his talit, tefillin and tzitzit? Answer: Many of the minhagim that are done to the niftar and… Read more »

Funeral and burial burial Tefillin Tzitzis
13/12/2019
  • Year of mourning

Watching TV/playing games on tablet during Shloshim and the year

Question: During Shloshim and the Year, while mourning for my mother, may I watch television or movies at home, and/or play games on my tablet either alone or with friends?… Read more »

Year of mourning Avel in year simcha
02/12/2019
  • Seven days of mourning

Aveilus

Question: Is a mourner allowed to sit in a regular chair while eating a meal – both seudas ha’vraah and all other meals during shiva? Answer: The mourner sits on… Read more »

Seven days of mourning Avel sitting
18/11/2019
  • Year of mourning

purchasing a watch

Question: As an Avel for a parent, can I purchase a wrist watch? Answer: If it is needed, it is permitted for an avel to buy a wrist watch and… Read more »

Year of mourning buying clothes during aveilus
18/11/2019
  • Year of mourning

Listening to ambient music during aveilus

Question: During the year of mourning for a parent, is it permissible to listen to the so called “ambient” music, which is not really music but sounds, often repetitive, played… Read more »

Year of mourning Avel music
12/11/2019
  • Year of mourning

Can I invite guests for shabbat meal during year of avelut for my father

Question: Can I invite guests for shabbat meal during year of avelut for my father Answer: Hamakom yinachem eschem b’toch shar aveilei Tzion v’Yerushalayim Regarding your question, it is permitted,… Read more »

Year of mourning Avel in year
03/11/2019
  • Year of mourning

playing in an orchestra during aveilut

Question: Hi, A congregant of mine recently learned to play the violin (during the last 4 years). Since then he has been invited to join an orchestra for people learning… Read more »

Year of mourning Avel in year music during sefira
30/10/2019
  • Thirty days of mourning

When would Shloshim Be

Question: My uncle was buried the first second day of Succos (on Yom Tov itself). When would the shloshim be? Answer: The morning of 20th of Cheshvan would be the… Read more »

Thirty days of mourning shloshim
25/10/2019
  • Thirty days of mourning

Grandmother during sheloshim at grandchild’s vort

Question: Can a women in Avelus still in the shloshim for her father go to a granddaughters vort and if yes can she have a manicure and get her face… Read more »

Thirty days of mourning aveilus shloshim year of mourning
03/10/2019
  • Cemetery

Relieving oneself near Jewish graves

Question: please help me and clarify this question. a friend of mine. who is good jew, we went together to kever tsaddikim to visit in Ukraine. and he wanted to… Read more »

Cemetery Cemetery
23/09/2019
  • Seven days of mourning

Children attend simchos when a parent is sitting shiva

Question: Can children attend a Simcha when their parent is sitting shiva Answer: The halachos of “misablim imo” that the child or relative of a mourner, mourns together with them,… Read more »

Seven days of mourning aveilus
20/09/2019
  • Death anniversary (yahrtzeit)

yahrtzeit seuda

Question: My father z”l’s 1st yahrtzeit is coming up on Tzom Gedala. When should the seudas yartzeit/siyum take place? Motzei Rosh hashana, very late and after 2 days of eating… Read more »

Death anniversary (yahrtzeit) yahrzeit
13/09/2019
  • Year of mourning

Learning mishnayos for two people

Question: Again sorry for asking a third time My question was actually concerning learning mishnayos for my parents who were nifter a few months apart, I tell the family to… Read more »

Year of mourning Avel in year mishnayos
13/09/2019
  • Mourning and burial

laws of mourning

Question: Hello, Thank you so much for your help. The question relates to a daughter of a Jewish mother and non-Jewish father. When the father passes away, is the daughter… Read more »

Mourning and burial mourning non-Jew
01/09/2019
  • Year of mourning

Going to a close friend’s son’s aufruf

Question: Going to a close friend’s son’s aufruf 1. The kiddush in shul – not a sit down. 2. A luncheon with several tables. Answer: My apologies that it took… Read more »

Year of mourning aveilus
30/08/2019
  • Year of mourning

A child mourning the death of a parent

Question: Is it permitted to purchase a new car for oneself or to request it as a gift during the year after the loss of a parent, purely for pleasure… Read more »

Year of mourning aveilus
28/08/2019
  • Death anniversary (yahrtzeit)

aveilut

Question: שלום אני מגיע לקראת סוף הי”ב חדש של אבילות לאבי ז”ל שנפטר בצום גדלי’ שעבר. רציתי לדעת אם יש מה שהוא מיוחד ליום שנגמר אבילות בשנה מעוברת שאניו יום… Read more »

Death anniversary (yahrtzeit) yahrzeit
20/08/2019
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