Question: I’ve been asked why is it that avelus for a child is only one month when it is a lot more painful than losing a parent where avelus is… Read more »
Category: Year of mourning
May I go away for a family vacation/shabbos during shloshim for my mom
Question: May I go away for a family vacation/shabbos during the shloshim for my mom.We usually go away only in the summer as the kids are off and wont be… Read more »
Music during year after passing of a parent when doing exercise
Question: My mother passed away a few weeks ago. I would listen to music on a small ipod at the gym as a diversion while working out. Although I listened… Read more »
If I buy a new sheital in the year of aveilus, does someone else have to wear it before me?
Question: I bought a new sheital in my year of aveilus intending for a friend to wear it for 2 days before myself, however the sheital has obviously been tried… Read more »
Buying a new shaitel
Question: Can I buy a sheitel during the shiloshim for my Mother Answer: Hamakom Yinachem Eschem b’toal aveilei tzion v’yerushalayim Regarding your question, the minhag is that an avel doesn’t… Read more »
Singing during aveilus
Question: During the year of mourning is it permissible to sing to a child or yourself? Answer: My apologies that it took so long to get back to you. It… Read more »
During the year of aveilus is it permitted to go to the engagement of a great nephew?
Question: During the year of aveilus is it permitted to go to the engagement of a great nephew (my brothers grandson)? Answer: There are different opinions to this. However he… Read more »
Swimming/ going to the beach or pool during after shiva
Question: Can one mourning a parent swim after the shiva period/ during the 30 day or 12 month? Answer: During shloshim the avel should not go swimming if it is… Read more »
Stand up comedy during availut
Question: If it permissible to watch live stand-up comedy during year of mourning for a parent? Answer: In general this would be included in the prohibition not to do things… Read more »
Akdamus by an avel
Question: Can someone who is in Yud Bes Chodesh lead Akdamus on Shavuos? Answer: It is permitted or an avel to read the akdomus on Shavous. The reason is since… Read more »
Minyan restricting aveilim
Question: Can a minyan have a policy that aveilim don’t have precedence for being shaliach tzibur? The question concerns a “teen minyan” which has been established to give bochurim a… Read more »
Candle after shiva
Question: Can A person keep a candle burning for a departed parent beyond Shiva? Is there a source for such a practice? Having a candle lit for a departed love… Read more »
Avelus for a parent and attendance at a grandson’s bar mitzvah
Question: Aveilus for a parent and attendance at a grandson’s bar mitzvah. What is permitted? Answer: If the bar mitzvah boy will say a dvar torah, or if it is… Read more »
Aveilus and giving gifts
Question: If someone is in the year of aveilus for a parent may the person send a cake or fruit platter in honor of someone’s simcha as a way of… Read more »
Can I buy a Sheital in the year of aveilus?
Question: Can I buy a Sheital in the year of aveilus my present weekday one is in a not good state The sheital was bought on offer of a sale?… Read more »
Can I buy a new car for work in the 11th month of aveilus for my father?
Question: Can I buy a new car in the year of aveilus for my father? Answer: Yes you may. A person in aveilus is allowed to buy new things, (except… Read more »
Final Kaddish
Question: A relative passes away on 14 Adar (II) 5776. Is the final Kaddish said at Mincha on 13 Shvat or Mincha of 14 Shvat? Answer: You specifically should stop… Read more »
Aveil and public mourning
Question: As an aveil, I was told that I could not take part in the hoshana circuits, nor dance with the sifrei Torah on Simchas Torah. Why is this not… Read more »
Buying and wearing new clothing during year of availus
Question: I am an older single girl in shiduchim. Is it permissible for me to buy and wear new clothing during the year of availus for my father? Answer: It… Read more »
Mourners Rights
Question: Our rabbi’s father passed away. He says he has the right to lead prayers in his Chabad nusach even though it’s not the nusach of his synagogue. He does… Read more »
Buying clothes when in mourning
Question: Can one buy new clothes when in year of mourning? What about sales? Is it the same halachos as in nine days? Answer: There isn’t an issue with buying… Read more »
New Tie During Aveilus, Shehechiyanu on new tie
Question: When in aveilus can one wear a new, good quality tie that was bought as special to be worn at a simcha? Is shehecheyonu commonly said on a tie… Read more »
Learning Mishnayot for a Deceased Parent During a Leap Year
Question: Dear Rabbis, In the first year after a parent’s passing – and when it is a leap year – I understand that mourning customs are observed for twelve months… Read more »
Aveilus and pleasure trip
Question: Is a new mother who is still in the year of aveilus allowed to go away for a shabbos to a hotel or rest home? Answer: If she is… Read more »
Attending a social event for work purposes in year of mourning for a parent
Question: Hi, I am a writer by profession, and have been asked to cover a women’s event for a chesed organization so I can then write up about the event…. Read more »
Avel attending a bris and bar mitzvah of a son during aveilus.
Question: May the mother of the baby boy attend the seudah of the bris l’chatchila if she is still in the year of mourning for a parent. Also may the… Read more »
Buying a new handbag during the avelus year
Question: I am in avelus for my Father a”h. May I purchase and use a new handbag (pocketbook)? Answer: You may buy a new handbag in the aveilus year. The… Read more »
As an Avel in the year for my mother, may I attend Simchas Bais Hashoaiva?
Question: As an Avel in the year for my mother, may I attend Simchas Bais Hashoaiva? Answer: An avel during the first year may not attend the dancing part of… Read more »
Music lessons during aveilus for parent
Question: May I continue my music lessons during the year of aveilus for my parent? Answer: The poskim permit a person who teaches music as a profession to continue when… Read more »
Duchaning during the Mourning Year
Question: Is it permissible to duchan during a mourning year – after Sh’loshim – after a parent has died? Answer: There are different minhagim regarding a cohen duchining during the… Read more »
Avel accepting a gift
Question: If one is in the year of aveilus for a parent, may one take a one time check from a relative to help cover basic living expenses or would… Read more »
Gifts during sheloshim
Question: Is one allowed to give or receive gifts during the sheloshim for a parent. What is considered a gift? Can an avel send a cake to a neighbor to… Read more »
Aveilus after a parent
Question: I am still in the year for my father a”h and would like to know if I am allowed to go to a hadlaka on Lag Baomer if there… Read more »
Gift for an Aveil
Question: It is my roommate’s birthday and she is in the year of aveilus for a family member. Would it be permissible to buy a gift (a Shabbos lamp, that… Read more »