Question: I am in the year of aveilus for my mother. Can I attend a retirement dinner for a fellow teacher? Also, can I use money that was given to… Read more »
Category: Year of mourning
Year of mourning in year with two adars
Question: My husband is in mourning for his father who passed away on 12 Sivan this year. Next year there are two adars. When does his mourning period end? 12… Read more »
Year of Mourning and Attending Shabbos/Yom Tov Meals Outside the Home
Question: Are there any restrictions for a single person mourning a parent to attend a Shabbos or Yom Tov seudah during the year of mourning? For example, if he or… Read more »
parent in aveilos at child’s wedding
Question: If a parent is in aveilos, can they dance at their own child’s wedding? Answer: Mazal Tov. You should have much nachas from the new couple. Regarding your question,… Read more »
Aveilus listening to wife’s piano playing
Question: I am in Aveilus for my Mother, toch yud beis chodesh. My wife likes to play piano it’s her hobby. Can she play while I am in the room… Read more »
Giving a Yom Tov gift to your wife when she is in the year for a parent
Question: Can I give my wife a gift for Yom Tov even though she is in the year of avelus ?? Is simchas Yom Tov considered different then stam Simcha… Read more »
music during availus
Question: Is an avel allowed to listen to acapella? Or to rhythm, like drums, without other instruments? Thank you. Answer: It is incorrect for someone in aveilus to listen to… Read more »
Mishloach manos during availus
Question: At my job we tend to give mishloach manos to each other before or after Purim, since we’re not here on Purim. May I participate in this? I know… Read more »
May I go to the gym during the year of availus?
Question: May I go to the gym to exercise during the year of availus for my mother? There is music there, but I’m not going for the music. Thank you…. Read more »
Aveilus Questions
Question: In the harachamans in betnching, I usually add in es avi v’es aimi. My father has just passed away, can I still include him in the harachaman? Also, someone… Read more »
Attending a siduur party while in avalus
Question: May I attend my grandson’s siddur party where there will singing if I am in avalus? Answer: You can attend the siddur party, but you can’t be there when… Read more »
Wearing new clothes for a simcha during Aveilus
Question: Is there any leniency for wearing new clothes at our son’s bar mitzvah without having others wear it first while in the year of Aveilus? Answer: I don’t know… Read more »
Dancing at My Sons bar mitzva while in Aveilus
Question: We are making a bar mitzvah for our 2nd son with music and dancing. at our older son’s bar mitzvah last year, we had ladies dancing (behind a mechitza),… Read more »
Year of aveilus
Question: Is one allowed to go to shabbos sheva brooches in year of aveilus for mother ? (Invited by good friend who’s daughter getting married ) Answer: In general it… Read more »
when does the year of availut end in first year?
Question: when does the year of availut end in first year? Answer: The aveilut of the first year ends at the end of 12 months from the day of the… Read more »
Aveilis vs kibud av
Question: I am an Avel for my mother, my father is in a nursing home they are making a Chanukah party with music am I allowed to attend it is for… Read more »
Can I redecorate and change flooring in my dining room during year of aveilus?
Question: Can I redecorate and change flooring in my dining room during year of aveilus? Answer: It is permitted to decorate one’s home during the year of aveilus, the same… Read more »
year of aveilus – shoes ?
Question: Are buying shoes in year of aveilus included in the ban on buying and wearing new clothes? Answer: Buying shoes is not included in the ban of not buying… Read more »
Avelus for a child vs parent
Question: I’ve been asked why is it that avelus for a child is only one month when it is a lot more painful than losing a parent where avelus is… Read more »
May I go away for a family vacation/shabbos during shloshim for my mom
Question: May I go away for a family vacation/shabbos during the shloshim for my mom.We usually go away only in the summer as the kids are off and wont be… Read more »
Music during year after passing of a parent when doing exercise
Question: My mother passed away a few weeks ago. I would listen to music on a small ipod at the gym as a diversion while working out. Although I listened… Read more »
If I buy a new sheital in the year of aveilus, does someone else have to wear it before me?
Question: I bought a new sheital in my year of aveilus intending for a friend to wear it for 2 days before myself, however the sheital has obviously been tried… Read more »
Buying a new shaitel
Question: Can I buy a sheitel during the shiloshim for my Mother Answer: Hamakom Yinachem Eschem b’toal aveilei tzion v’yerushalayim Regarding your question, the minhag is that an avel doesn’t… Read more »
Singing during aveilus
Question: During the year of mourning is it permissible to sing to a child or yourself? Answer: My apologies that it took so long to get back to you. It… Read more »
During the year of aveilus is it permitted to go to the engagement of a great nephew?
Question: During the year of aveilus is it permitted to go to the engagement of a great nephew (my brothers grandson)? Answer: There are different opinions to this. However he… Read more »
Swimming/ going to the beach or pool during after shiva
Question: Can one mourning a parent swim after the shiva period/ during the 30 day or 12 month? Answer: During shloshim the avel should not go swimming if it is… Read more »
Stand up comedy during availut
Question: If it permissible to watch live stand-up comedy during year of mourning for a parent? Answer: In general this would be included in the prohibition not to do things… Read more »
Akdamus by an avel
Question: Can someone who is in Yud Bes Chodesh lead Akdamus on Shavuos? Answer: It is permitted or an avel to read the akdomus on Shavous. The reason is since… Read more »
Minyan restricting aveilim
Question: Can a minyan have a policy that aveilim don’t have precedence for being shaliach tzibur? The question concerns a “teen minyan” which has been established to give bochurim a… Read more »
Candle after shiva
Question: Can A person keep a candle burning for a departed parent beyond Shiva? Is there a source for such a practice? Having a candle lit for a departed love… Read more »
Avelus for a parent and attendance at a grandson’s bar mitzvah
Question: Aveilus for a parent and attendance at a grandson’s bar mitzvah. What is permitted? Answer: If the bar mitzvah boy will say a dvar torah, or if it is… Read more »
Aveilus and giving gifts
Question: If someone is in the year of aveilus for a parent may the person send a cake or fruit platter in honor of someone’s simcha as a way of… Read more »
Can I buy a Sheital in the year of aveilus?
Question: Can I buy a Sheital in the year of aveilus my present weekday one is in a not good state The sheital was bought on offer of a sale?… Read more »
Can I buy a new car for work in the 11th month of aveilus for my father?
Question: Can I buy a new car in the year of aveilus for my father? Answer: Yes you may. A person in aveilus is allowed to buy new things, (except… Read more »
Final Kaddish
Question: A relative passes away on 14 Adar (II) 5776. Is the final Kaddish said at Mincha on 13 Shvat or Mincha of 14 Shvat? Answer: You specifically should stop… Read more »
Aveil and public mourning
Question: As an aveil, I was told that I could not take part in the hoshana circuits, nor dance with the sifrei Torah on Simchas Torah. Why is this not… Read more »
Buying and wearing new clothing during year of availus
Question: I am an older single girl in shiduchim. Is it permissible for me to buy and wear new clothing during the year of availus for my father? Answer: It… Read more »
Mourners Rights
Question: Our rabbi’s father passed away. He says he has the right to lead prayers in his Chabad nusach even though it’s not the nusach of his synagogue. He does… Read more »
Buying clothes when in mourning
Question: Can one buy new clothes when in year of mourning? What about sales? Is it the same halachos as in nine days? Answer: There isn’t an issue with buying… Read more »
New Tie During Aveilus, Shehechiyanu on new tie
Question: When in aveilus can one wear a new, good quality tie that was bought as special to be worn at a simcha? Is shehecheyonu commonly said on a tie… Read more »
Learning Mishnayot for a Deceased Parent During a Leap Year
Question: Dear Rabbis, In the first year after a parent’s passing – and when it is a leap year – I understand that mourning customs are observed for twelve months… Read more »
Aveilus and pleasure trip
Question: Is a new mother who is still in the year of aveilus allowed to go away for a shabbos to a hotel or rest home? Answer: If she is… Read more »
Attending a social event for work purposes in year of mourning for a parent
Question: Hi, I am a writer by profession, and have been asked to cover a women’s event for a chesed organization so I can then write up about the event…. Read more »
Avel attending a bris and bar mitzvah of a son during aveilus.
Question: May the mother of the baby boy attend the seudah of the bris l’chatchila if she is still in the year of mourning for a parent. Also may the… Read more »
Buying a new handbag during the avelus year
Question: I am in avelus for my Father a”h. May I purchase and use a new handbag (pocketbook)? Answer: You may buy a new handbag in the aveilus year. The… Read more »
As an Avel in the year for my mother, may I attend Simchas Bais Hashoaiva?
Question: As an Avel in the year for my mother, may I attend Simchas Bais Hashoaiva? Answer: An avel during the first year may not attend the dancing part of… Read more »
Music lessons during aveilus for parent
Question: May I continue my music lessons during the year of aveilus for my parent? Answer: The poskim permit a person who teaches music as a profession to continue when… Read more »
Duchaning during the Mourning Year
Question: Is it permissible to duchan during a mourning year – after Sh’loshim – after a parent has died? Answer: There are different minhagim regarding a cohen duchining during the… Read more »
Avel accepting a gift
Question: If one is in the year of aveilus for a parent, may one take a one time check from a relative to help cover basic living expenses or would… Read more »
Gifts during sheloshim
Question: Is one allowed to give or receive gifts during the sheloshim for a parent. What is considered a gift? Can an avel send a cake to a neighbor to… Read more »