Question: Is it mutar during shloshim/aveilus year to make a bracha of shehechiyanu on fruit? Answer: An avel, even during shiva is allowed to make a shehechiyanu, as there are… Read more »
Category: Year of mourning
Accepting gifts during the first year of mourning
Question: My father passed away two weeks ago. My friend is going on vacation to Europe, and she usually brings me gifts from her travels. Can I accept her gift?… Read more »
How long do I say kaddish for?
Question: Shalom Rabbi. I have a serious problem. My mother passed away last year. I’ve been saying Kadish for her soul ever since 3 times a day plus when I… Read more »
Attending a football match during avelus for a father
Question: My boyfriend and I split up but he said he wished he could talk to me. Unfortunately there is no regular minyan in my town. His avelus ends in… Read more »
Can a Rebbe who is in aveilus for a parent, go to his students bar mitzvas?
Question: Can a Rebbe who is in aveilus for a parent, go to his students bar mitzvas? Answer: He can attend the bar mitzva, but in a limited manner. He… Read more »
Can a zeidy who is in aveilus for a parent, attend the bris of a grandson?
Question: Can a zeidy who is in aveilus for a parent, attend the bris of a grandson? Answer: A zeidy who is in aveuilus may attend his grandsons bris. He… Read more »
Shabbos meal during year of aveilus for a parent
Question: My father passed away 3 months ago, am i allowed to partake in a shabbos meal at my Shul with my husband and family and the rest of the… Read more »
Kaddish or Mishnayos?
Question: I live in Israel and my uncle who was in USA was niftar a few days ago at age 96. He was not frum. His only son is not… Read more »
Professional singer during avelut
Question: To a professional singer is died a father. He have a job, but without the money that he will gain with the singer job, (wedding and bar mitsvà) he… Read more »
Kaddish during avalus
Question: I am in Avelus for my mother, if I have davened Mincha already and go to a different shul to daven maariv, if there is a mynion still davening… Read more »
Ovel going to granddaughter’s Sheva Brachos
Question: My daughter is IY”H making a wedding, I will be invited to Sheva Brachos after, can I as a Zeidy go the Sheva Brochos during the week after, and… Read more »
Avelus question
Question: I am in Avelus for my mother a”h, my wifes nephew is getting married, what is my halacha for the weddings, eating at kabalos Ponim, staying for chupa, and… Read more »
Receiving Workplace Gifts during the Year of Mourning for a Parent
Question: My place of work recently had an event which I couldn’t attend, where they gave a gift to all their employees. I’ve now been informed that the gift is… Read more »
dinei aveilus
Question: Is new linen permitted during the year of aveilus for a parent? Answer: Yes. Linens are considered new items, and not new clothing, therefore they are permitted during aveilus…. Read more »
Can a person in aveilut for a parent attend a chuppah?
Question: Can a person in aveilut for a parent attend a chuppah? Answer: Yes., you can attend the chuppah but under two conditions. One is that the chuppah is not… Read more »
playing piano during aveilus
Question: I am at the beginning of my aveilus for my father, z”l and I am a piano player. I’m not a professional, but it is s significant hobby. When… Read more »
Does an Ovel daven for the omud on Rosh Chodesh
Question: Does an Ovel daven for the omud on Rosh Chodesh? Answer: An ovel does not daven on Rosh Chodesh since it is a day that we don’t say “lam’natzyach”…. Read more »
Can I travel to Israel during my year of Aveilut for my father z’l
Question: My husband will be in Israel for for 3 weeks for business and I would like to join him for part of the time. I am allowed to travel… Read more »
Aveilus for community activist
Question: I am a community activist I am in the shloshim for my father a’h can I go to political events with food? Can I eat there and is after… Read more »
Outing during Availus
Question: Is one permitted to go to a ballgame during availus? Answer: Without getting into the issue weather one should or shouldn’t attend a ballgame, regarding aveilus, it is hard… Read more »
Can I attend a retirement dinner, accept appreiciation gift durng the year of aveilus?
Question: I am in the year of aveilus for my mother. Can I attend a retirement dinner for a fellow teacher? Also, can I use money that was given to… Read more »
Year of mourning in year with two adars
Question: My husband is in mourning for his father who passed away on 12 Sivan this year. Next year there are two adars. When does his mourning period end? 12… Read more »
Year of Mourning and Attending Shabbos/Yom Tov Meals Outside the Home
Question: Are there any restrictions for a single person mourning a parent to attend a Shabbos or Yom Tov seudah during the year of mourning? For example, if he or… Read more »
parent in aveilos at child’s wedding
Question: If a parent is in aveilos, can they dance at their own child’s wedding? Answer: Mazal Tov. You should have much nachas from the new couple. Regarding your question,… Read more »
Aveilus listening to wife’s piano playing
Question: I am in Aveilus for my Mother, toch yud beis chodesh. My wife likes to play piano it’s her hobby. Can she play while I am in the room… Read more »
Giving a Yom Tov gift to your wife when she is in the year for a parent
Question: Can I give my wife a gift for Yom Tov even though she is in the year of avelus ?? Is simchas Yom Tov considered different then stam Simcha… Read more »
music during availus
Question: Is an avel allowed to listen to acapella? Or to rhythm, like drums, without other instruments? Thank you. Answer: It is incorrect for someone in aveilus to listen to… Read more »
Mishloach manos during availus
Question: At my job we tend to give mishloach manos to each other before or after Purim, since we’re not here on Purim. May I participate in this? I know… Read more »
May I go to the gym during the year of availus?
Question: May I go to the gym to exercise during the year of availus for my mother? There is music there, but I’m not going for the music. Thank you…. Read more »
Aveilus Questions
Question: In the harachamans in betnching, I usually add in es avi v’es aimi. My father has just passed away, can I still include him in the harachaman? Also, someone… Read more »
Attending a siduur party while in avalus
Question: May I attend my grandson’s siddur party where there will singing if I am in avalus? Answer: You can attend the siddur party, but you can’t be there when… Read more »
Wearing new clothes for a simcha during Aveilus
Question: Is there any leniency for wearing new clothes at our son’s bar mitzvah without having others wear it first while in the year of Aveilus? Answer: I don’t know… Read more »
Dancing at My Sons bar mitzva while in Aveilus
Question: We are making a bar mitzvah for our 2nd son with music and dancing. at our older son’s bar mitzvah last year, we had ladies dancing (behind a mechitza),… Read more »
Year of aveilus
Question: Is one allowed to go to shabbos sheva brooches in year of aveilus for mother ? (Invited by good friend who’s daughter getting married ) Answer: In general it… Read more »
when does the year of availut end in first year?
Question: when does the year of availut end in first year? Answer: The aveilut of the first year ends at the end of 12 months from the day of the… Read more »
Aveilis vs kibud av
Question: I am an Avel for my mother, my father is in a nursing home they are making a Chanukah party with music am I allowed to attend it is for… Read more »
Can I redecorate and change flooring in my dining room during year of aveilus?
Question: Can I redecorate and change flooring in my dining room during year of aveilus? Answer: It is permitted to decorate one’s home during the year of aveilus, the same… Read more »
year of aveilus – shoes ?
Question: Are buying shoes in year of aveilus included in the ban on buying and wearing new clothes? Answer: Buying shoes is not included in the ban of not buying… Read more »
Avelus for a child vs parent
Question: I’ve been asked why is it that avelus for a child is only one month when it is a lot more painful than losing a parent where avelus is… Read more »
May I go away for a family vacation/shabbos during shloshim for my mom
Question: May I go away for a family vacation/shabbos during the shloshim for my mom.We usually go away only in the summer as the kids are off and wont be… Read more »
Music during year after passing of a parent when doing exercise
Question: My mother passed away a few weeks ago. I would listen to music on a small ipod at the gym as a diversion while working out. Although I listened… Read more »
If I buy a new sheital in the year of aveilus, does someone else have to wear it before me?
Question: I bought a new sheital in my year of aveilus intending for a friend to wear it for 2 days before myself, however the sheital has obviously been tried… Read more »
Buying a new shaitel
Question: Can I buy a sheitel during the shiloshim for my Mother Answer: Hamakom Yinachem Eschem b’toal aveilei tzion v’yerushalayim Regarding your question, the minhag is that an avel doesn’t… Read more »
Singing during aveilus
Question: During the year of mourning is it permissible to sing to a child or yourself? Answer: My apologies that it took so long to get back to you. It… Read more »
During the year of aveilus is it permitted to go to the engagement of a great nephew?
Question: During the year of aveilus is it permitted to go to the engagement of a great nephew (my brothers grandson)? Answer: There are different opinions to this. However he… Read more »
Swimming/ going to the beach or pool during after shiva
Question: Can one mourning a parent swim after the shiva period/ during the 30 day or 12 month? Answer: During shloshim the avel should not go swimming if it is… Read more »
Stand up comedy during availut
Question: If it permissible to watch live stand-up comedy during year of mourning for a parent? Answer: In general this would be included in the prohibition not to do things… Read more »
Akdamus by an avel
Question: Can someone who is in Yud Bes Chodesh lead Akdamus on Shavuos? Answer: It is permitted or an avel to read the akdomus on Shavous. The reason is since… Read more »
Minyan restricting aveilim
Question: Can a minyan have a policy that aveilim don’t have precedence for being shaliach tzibur? The question concerns a “teen minyan” which has been established to give bochurim a… Read more »
Candle after shiva
Question: Can A person keep a candle burning for a departed parent beyond Shiva? Is there a source for such a practice? Having a candle lit for a departed love… Read more »