Question: I was recently at a shiur. The Rav printed handouts (pages of a sefer, printed from otzar hachachma). During the shiur, I was absentmindedly touching the papers with a… Read more »
Category: Repentance
Extended mechila insincerely
Question: Hi, In advance of Yom Kippur and in the spirit of the chag, I approached a friend who I thought had wronged me and told him I forgave him… Read more »
Asking forgiveness
Question: B”H Thank you so much for taking the time and effort to help answer my questions. Regarding asking forgiveness, ideally the other party says “I forgive you.” If I… Read more »
Alternative to Teshuva
Question: I feel I struggle excessively with an aveira and therefore cannot commit sincerely to not doing it again, are there any alternatives to Teshuva that one may do (commit… Read more »
Teshuva for speaking Lashon Harah
Question: How can one do teshuva for speaking Lashon Harah about all Jews, or about all the Jews of a particular city? Answer: A person that spoke lashon hora about… Read more »
Do I have to ask mechila for something that happened 45 years ago?
Question: BH Shalom kvod ha rav. 45 years ago I broked an advanced relation with a woman short before chatuna.No vort was done yet. She suffered. Afterwards both built happy… Read more »
Followup to a previous shaila
Question: Hi, I’d like to clarify that your response to #56724 refers to both of my 2 questions that I asked over here -https://dinonline.org/2020/06/08/need-to-reimbursemechila-for-small-damages/ – rather than to just the… Read more »
Fasting for teshuva
Question: Dear Rabbi, I have given more thought to fasting to do teshuvah and to ask Hashem more health and reasonable biblical placement. Can you help me choose with a… Read more »
#56131
Question: Thank you Rav. I’m following your advise, I added more hours of learning and more subjects. The only thing I´m not able to do is to answer “yehi Shme… Read more »
Remedies for wasting seeds
Question: Please I want to ask the prayer done to remove the damage caused by the wasting seed Thanks Answer: There is such a kind of tefillah, but I am… Read more »
Can you undo the kareis part of an issur kareis with partial teshuva?
Question: If you do partial teshuva for an issur kareis, can you downgrade the severity of the sin, even if there is still a more complete teshuva left to do?… Read more »
Teshuva for cursing a parent
Question: Hello, Thank you for your help. My question deals with cursing a parent. As a bal teshuva, I am analyzing past mistakes in detail to try to make it… Read more »
making amends for lashon hara
Question: i used to not be very careful with my mouth, but now b’h I’ve got much more control, an entirely different person. however, i’m trying to do teshuva for… Read more »
Embarrassed passer by on street
Question: Dear Rabbis, I embarrassed a passer by on the street. I don’t know who they were, and have no way of finding out. Is there any way of doing… Read more »
Washing on shabbos
Question: I got dirty on Friday night and I was very uncomfortable. It was a pretty big mess so I tried washing washing myself one ever at a time with… Read more »
Teshuvah
Question: What is the proper path to teshuvah for one who has Gd forbid committed the sin of mishkav zachar? Does this person have any hope? What is he to… Read more »
reply to “Honesty in Business/Commerce”
Question: Thanks so much for that information. If one item was purchased already, and since there is doubt as to whether the manufacturer was allowed to sell it, what is… Read more »
Teshuva for lying
Question: Without intending to, I said something to my child’s teacher/babysitter that was untrue about him. (I was trying to think of an example of his ability in an area,… Read more »
Chayav karies
Question: I slept with a single girl who as being single was a nidda. Am i chayav karies? What does this mean for me now? Is it possible to rectify?… Read more »
Appropriate way to approach mechila?
Question: I have a teshuva question. When I was in yeshiva, shortly after becoming more religious, Rav Eliyashiv z’l passed away. The yeshiva went to be melaveh Rav Elyashiv, along… Read more »
Pasta with chicken with grated cheese
Question: Shalom, I usually cook pasta, tomato sauce and some kind of fish cubes, as tuna or salmon. Then I eat it with grated cheese, as it is usual here… Read more »
Does Hashem ever unforgive?
Question: If I sincerely do teshuva and ask for forgiveness and H-shem forgives me, but then I have a change of heart in a bad way and start thinking of… Read more »
Confessing using different words
Question: Is Viduy allowed to be said like this: “Hashem I’m sorry that I did xyz…” instead of “I did xyz… Hashem, I’m sorry!” Stating just the sin first and… Read more »
Repenting for taking interest on a loan
Question: Dear Rabbi. My husband some years ago (maybe 18 years ago) took ribit on a loan for around 3 years without a heter eska from another Jew. We were… Read more »
Can I mochel somebody if they borrowed money and didnt pay it back
Question: Can I mochel somebody if they borrowed money and didn’t pay it back? Ribit and debts are not good to have but what if you don’t remember if you… Read more »
Hug from Professor
Question: Hi, Thank you for helping. I have a professor (non jewish) that I was speaking with on the last day of class. Other students had left the room as… Read more »
Relationship with Hashem after Chilul Hashem
Question: I wrote things about Torah observance that are wrong and misleading and wrote about idolatrous practices as if they are equally valid. My writing went very far and can… Read more »
Lying to get a certain psak (seeking forgiveness)
Question: I lied to getba psak to eat normally on Yom Kippur. I feel ashamed. I asked the Rabbi for forgiveness. I put it out of my mind. Yom Kippur… Read more »
Isn’t it a chutzpah to ask Hashem for forgiveness?
Question: Isn’t it a chutzpah to ask Hashem for forgiveness? I understand the importance of Viduy and expressing remorse and commitment for the future, but isn’t it an outright chutzpah… Read more »
Atonement
Question: When we feel emotional pain over our sins does it count as the suffering that’s needed sometimes for atonement? Answer: Definitely. Part of the atonement for the sin that… Read more »
Does it help to ask a child mechilla
Question: I am a teacher for third grade boys. Over the year there were some times when I got upset and embarrassed a student in front of other children even… Read more »
Permanent damage to myself because of my sins
Question: If a person permanently damaged their own abilities, either trough drug use or failing to address a medical/mental health condition, and now they are permanently changed by their mistakes,… Read more »
Still sorry after teshuva
Question: If we believe that Hashem forgives us when we do teshuva, then what should we do when we still feel remorse after doing teshuva? Isn’t that expected? After all… Read more »
Doing teshuva gradually
Question: Is it okay to do teshuva gradually? It feels too scary and shameful to face some of the things I’ve done in the past. Is it okay to tell… Read more »
accidentally ate bugs
Question: Hi, I just ate mulberries off a tree without checking first to see if they had bugs. I know I should have. After eating a few, I looked closely… Read more »
Teshuva and accomplishments.
Question: Are there limits to teshuva? There are stories of people who lives sinful lives and did teshuva at the very end and Hashem accepted them, but did they really… Read more »
Teshuvah Repentance Important!
Question: Rabbi, I am vacationing in Thailand and it is songkran holiday. This afternoon, I attended a party where water splashing took place (water is splashed on people for good… Read more »
Sinning with intent to do teshuva
Question: What counts as sinning with intent to do teshuva? I used to do it a lot and usually it was because I was obsessed with teshuva and trying to… Read more »
Partial or full teshuva
Question: In today’s generation there a difference between partial and full teshuva? Is there a concept nowadays of feeling “bad enough?” If I try to improve but I don’t feel… Read more »
How does Hashem relate to remorseful sinners?
Question: How does Hashem relate to remorseful sinners who have not yet fully done teshuva but they want to and they are trying? What about someone who wants to do… Read more »
Clarifying question 46188
Question: I want to clarify the third part of the question. When I asked if Hashem forgives a person who doesn’t ask for forgiveness, I didn’t mean if the person… Read more »
Is there any time you shouldn’t ask for forgiveness?
Question: Is there ever a case where a person should not ask Hashem for forgiveness? Such as, if what they did was so terrible they know they will never deserve… Read more »
Asking forgiveness when caused embarrassment to a friend in public
Question: If a person caused embarrassment to his friend in-front of other people, not by saying hurtful words but for example by bringing up a topic which causes his friend… Read more »
Relationship with Hashem before kapara
Question: If a person did something that they can’t receive kapara for until they die (or in a less extreme example, until Yom Kippur), how should they approach Hashem in… Read more »
Teshuvah
Question: Rabbi, if I did something to hurt someone but contacting them to tell them I’m sorry would probobly upset them as well as members of my family, how does… Read more »
Asking mechila from a friend
Question: On several occasions, my friend breached my confidence by repeating our private conversations to other people and did not respect my privacy in other matters as well. I confronted… Read more »
Specifying a bit on transformation- from secular to a more observant Jew:
Question: If a person was once a secular jew, and then became a more Observant Jew in all the terms of the religious path, then are those clothing once worn… Read more »
Asking forgiveness from someone I embarrassed when I was a child
Question: I remember that when I was a child there was one time that we had an older girl giving a model lesson to my class in-front of her teachers,… Read more »
Asking forgiveness when embarrassed unintentionally
Question: If a person made someone else feel bad and embarrassed him unintentionally, is he obligated to ask him for forgiveness? Answer: If the embarrassment was caused to the person… Read more »
Mechilla not wholehearted
Question: If someone is mochel me and he “mostly” means it, but there still is some “kepeida” against me, does the mechilla work? I am not discussing a case where… Read more »