Question: There is a person who gave me a free lunch today. I don’t really need it. Is it better that I should give it to a bachur (chesed) or… Read more »
Category: Laws of interpersonal relations
Surprise guest
Question: May a man bring a guest home without telling his wife beforehand? Dry halacha please no need for hashkafa. thanks Answer: Dry halacha, there is not problem with bringing… Read more »
avak lashon hara
Question: There is someone (a rebbi) that I used to eat by on Shabbos. However, I no longer eat by him for certain reasons (having to do with frumkeit). Recently,… Read more »
gifts
Question: A friend asked me to get a negel vasser set for him (he will pay me back). I would like to give it to him as a matana, but… Read more »
upsetting widow
Question: Hello, Thank you for your help. My question deals with the parameters of upsetting a widow in the realm of shidduchim. A lady is dating a man and the… Read more »
Is heckling considered shaming the performer?
Question: Is booing, expressing disapproval or dislike of the performance, and similar gestures, considered shaming someone in public, or does it “come with the territory”? Answer: If the performer realizes… Read more »
Public Internet speech
Question: I have a Bein Adam l’chavero question. About a year ago there was a rabbi who posted a torah shiur on youtube. A Hasid, “Reuven”, wrote a comment about… Read more »
Uninvited surprise guests
Question: My husband has brought me in the past surprise guests the divorced men , from shul on shabboss . I dont like surprises i need to prepare and know… Read more »
What does רעך בתורה ובמצות mean?
Question: The Torah says וְאָהַבְתָּ לְרֵעֲךָ כָּמוֹךָ, Love your fellow as yourself. Actual halacha: Kitzur Shulchan Aruch: It is incumbent upon every Jew to love every fellow Jew as he… Read more »
Answering the door
Question: When a person knocks on my door on shabbos, coming to visit without any plans for a visit, I prefer not to answer the door. I am very uncomfortable… Read more »
Holding Grudge/ Proper Behavior Advice
Question: Hello, Thank you for your help. My question is: I was recently walking in a large city and was asked by a stranger if I “had a minute.” I… Read more »
Delaying a bus to catch a last-minute passenger
Question: Is it permitted to delay/stop a bus you or someone else is rushing to catch? (You know how people running up to the bus signal & call out to… Read more »
Obligation to help OFD friend
Question: Shalom Rav A friend from high school recently was in contact with me asking to meet up. He has strayed from the path in recent years and I’m not… Read more »
Staring
Question: I’ve notice people spying on me in shul and beis medrash either because of shiduchim or to find out about me since I come from outside the community. People… Read more »
Lending money
Question: I understand you don’t need to lend money to a mechalel shabbos. My question is do you have to lend money to a tinuk shenishbar – that’s a mechalel… Read more »
False judgement between two people only:
Question: in referrance to https://dinonline.org/2018/06/25/people-judge-and-embarass-me/ Does embarrassment also count, if it’s not done in a public area (amongst a group of people). For instance, an embarrassment occurring between only 2 people…. Read more »
People judge and embarassment
Question: Why does G-d allow people to constantly judge an innocent person, such as me. We can never ask G-d why, but just trying to understand. Judging results, in an… Read more »
Tinok shenishba in Halocho nowadays
Question: Hi, I heard there are several poskim in Eretz Yisroel and abroad who hold that one who lives in an area with many frum yidden and was not raised… Read more »
46394 clarification
Question: Thank you for answering my question. You wrote that if someone embarrasses me and I don’t respond then it’s an eitz ratzon and I can daven for anything and… Read more »
Causing embarrassment to someone when I stop a job
Question: I have a certain job which I do in a weekly basis. For a few reasons I would like to stop it, but I know that if I stop… Read more »
calling someone if I might be waking them
Question: Am I allowed to call someone when I need a favor from them when it’s a time that they might be sleeping and I don’t know if they put… Read more »
Giving money for a bikur cholim from maaser
Question: Dear Rabbi Gut Mo’ed. Thank you so much for the great Mitzvah of Dinonline Ask The Rabbi, and your kindness and help to all of us and for answering… Read more »
Embarrassing a student
Question: Is a teacher allowed to tell a student out loud in front of the class to stop talking, to pay more attention etc. if it will cause the student… Read more »
yehi ratzon for cholim
Question: How sick does someone need to be to daven for them using yehi ratzon… besoch shear cholei amo yisrael? Answer: Anyone who needs to get better, or feel better,… Read more »
Tochacha after being humiliated
Question: If A shames B and causes shame and public humiliation what is the correct approach? Should B approach A and tell him of his feelings? Even if B feels… Read more »
Children taking revenge to prevent bullying
Question: I heard Beshem a mechanech that a child who is bullied can or perhaps should resist or retaliate in a physical manner in order to prevent future bullying. Speaking… Read more »
Judging Favorably
Question: I’m having trouble trying to understand “judge everyone favorably”. If I turn a blind eye and I don’t use my mind and say “he’s a tzaddik, he’s correct he… Read more »
Spilling someones blood
Question: If someone embarrasses another person is that considered shfichas domim? Answer: Yes, there is an element of shfichas domim there. The gemorah Baba Metzia 58b says that when a… Read more »
Saying past bad habits to a date
Question: Does a boy have to tell a girl of past habits(bad) that he once had but are no longer an issue? Answer: Past bad habits that truly are no… Read more »
Saving Non-Jews
Question: Does the issur of lo moridin velo maalin apply to the non-jews of today? Answer: The issur only applies to the the pagan idol worshipers not to the non-Jews of… Read more »
Married men being friends with other women
Question: Is it halachicly allowed / appropriate for married men to be friends with other women? And is it allowed for married men to drive every day with another women… Read more »
when someone doesn’t realize they should ask for forgiveness
Question: Someone hurt me over a long time ago and has never apologized or asked for mechila in a sincere way. i recently contacted that person and can tell from… Read more »
Telling a child to stop misbehaving BaRabim
Question: If a school-aged kid is not behaving in class, or is being chutzpadik, is it permitted to tell him out loud to stop (when the rest of the class… Read more »
Cohen serving another cohen
Question: Is one kohein allowed to be “mishtameish” with another kohein or is he just as obligated to honor them by not being mishtameish with kohanim? Answer: It is a… Read more »
Shower negiah
Question: Hi, In college the other day, a girl(nonJew)asked me a question and I gave her the answer. She began to put her arms around me in an attempt to… Read more »
mechila
Question: Shalom Aleichem, I’m submitting these shailos on behalf of my friend who’s a little nervous but doesn’t have OCD and he just wants to know what the halacha is,and… Read more »
Gift to Irreligious Jew
Question: A worker in my office collects money from colleagues before Pesach and Rosh Hashanah to buy a gift for the irreligious cleaner. The cleaner is presented with a voucher… Read more »
Teaching Kosher to Non Observant
Question: Dear Rabbis, How comfortable should a Jew feel in discussing the need for others to keep a kosher diet in the jewish community. I have friends and family who… Read more »