Question: Hello, Thank you so much for your help, it is sincerely appreciated. I recently ordered something online and the wrong item was sent (there were two color options and… Read more »
Category: Slander (Lashon hara)
loshon hora and shidduchim
Question: The חפץ חיים writes מותר to ask people about this בחור in תורה, if he did not ask you directly, he just said tell me about this and this… Read more »
loshon hora
Question: If a בחור took off the door of his principle’s office before Purim, and now the Yeshiva is trying to figure out who did it, and the only one… Read more »
Sharing negative impression with husband
Question: Lichvod Harav We are considering playgroup options for our child and I’ve met several people with playgroups. Can I discuss my impressions with my husband openly even if it… Read more »
Possible lashon hara in blog comments and what to do exactly?
Question: Shalom aleichem kavod harav, I’m a middle-aged woman with a frum blog featuring articles relating to emuna & charedi politics & social issues from a frum perspective. I have a very… Read more »
loshon hora
Question: חפץ חיים כלל ב וְעַל כֵּן צָּרִיךְ לִזָּהֵר מְאֹד, אֲפִלּוּ אִם מְפֻרְסָם (כ) עַל אָדָם עִנְיָן אֶחָד לְרַע שֶׁעָשָׂה בְּנַעְרוּתוֹ, אַךְ מֵאָז וְעַד עַתָּה הוּא מִתְנַהֵג כַּשּׁוּרָה, אוֹ שֶׁמְּפֻרְסָם… Read more »
loshon hora on a tzibbur
Question: if you do not talk about a person,you talk about the public you say למשל the kashrus in bnei Brak is very weak,you did not say which store and… Read more »
Reading lashon hora on frum websites or frum newpapers
Question: Wondering if there r issues with reading websites or newspaper articles like … in terms of loshon hara etc….. Are stories like these a problem to read about on theses even… Read more »
loshon hora
Question: to say that somebody got divorced I would think that goes into חפץ חיים כלל ב אות ב that if you say this in front of three people or… Read more »
loshon hora
Question: if everybody knows about the story, do you still have to be מקפיד what the חפץ חיים write in כלל ב אות ט that to make the story sound… Read more »
If I see lashon Hora online am I allowed to tell this over to somebody else if it’s not for Toeles ?
Question: If I see something online or Yeshiva World some thing negative about a person am I allowed to tell this over to somebody else if it’s not for Toeles… Read more »
Lashan hara
Question: If on social media someone asks about the quality of an item or if a store sells good or bad quality can you answer it’s not good quality ?… Read more »
Loshen Hora
Question: When asking mechila for speaking loshen hora, must I tell the person what was said about him if he demands to know? Or is he mechiyev to be mochel… Read more »
Lashon Hora about person acting against the law
Question: Shalom, I became a Baal Tsuva many years ago during my service in the United States Navy. The United States military has it’s own legal system. On my ship… Read more »
Saying a comment that makes someone say Lashan Hara
Question: Hello, If someone was about to say a story that was Lashan Hara, you made a comment, which in essence made him continue his story (a follow up question… Read more »
Do my mitzvos go to the person that I spoke Lashon Hora about?
Question: Dear Rav, Is what I heard true that if one speaks lashon hara, even once, on someone else, he gives away all his mitzvos that he has done in… Read more »
Teshuva for Lashon Hara
Question: Rabbi, I have committed Lashon Hara against a number of people. When does one need to ask forgivness to another person? Also, how can I do Teshuvah for the… Read more »
Lashon Hara and/or Rechilut through inference
Question: A not so uncommon scenario. Let us say that there are 2 companies. Company ‘A’ run by Reuven and Shimon (clearly a Jewish company) and company ‘B’ run by… Read more »
Divulging confidential information when it could bring about a solution to the problem at hand
Question: A and B are brothers. their parents are C and D. A lives out of town and is currently struggling with parnasah. he is hesitant to move back to… Read more »
Co-workers follow up
Question: Rabbi, what if while in a group of the co-workers they start to gossip, and I smile or make a comment that would appear like I agree with the… Read more »
Advice for co-workers
Question: Rabbi, Please help me with this situation. I was in a group spending time with co-workers and all of a sudden they started gossiping about other people working in… Read more »
Why is wrong to believe what someone says about someone else?
Question: Why is it wrong to believe someone when they say something about someone else? Isn’t that an example of judging unfavorably (assuming that the person is lying)? Why shouldn’t… Read more »
Repenting for gossip
Question: Dear Rabbi, I need your help understanding something in Torah. It’s the issue of Lashon Hara. I am guilty of gossiping (a lot) throughout my life. I gossipped due… Read more »
Secretary in school and lashon hora
Question: What is the heter for the secretary in a school to type all the school grades (even the low grades and behavior problems) into the computer system. There is… Read more »
Re: the punishment of the person about whom lashon hara is spoken
Question: BH In the article about lashon hara, it is stated that even the person about whom lashon hara is said, is punished. What is the basis for this–especially, if… Read more »
Does the person that Lashon Hora was spoken about also get a sin?
Question: I know that the speaker and listener of loshon horah get a sin. Does the subject the person spoken about also get sin? Answer: The Midrash says that… Read more »
Is reporting a bad Amazon seller מסירה
Question: Hello Rabbi Thanks for the service. I am an Amazon seller in the Judaica field. One of my competitors is hurting us by undercutting our prices. This is defiantly… Read more »
Getting into situations where I probably will be hearing Lashon Hara
Question: If I know I’ll probably be hearing Lashon Hara while doing an act of chessed and I know that it’s very possible that I won’t have the courage to… Read more »
Lashon hara
Question: Is it lashon hara to say the name of a person that choked in your school today? Answer: A person that unfortunately choked is not an embarrassment to the… Read more »
Shidduchim and mental illness
Question: Hello, I have a close friend which I have known for many years and I want to set her up with potential shidduchim bh. However, she was diagnosed with… Read more »
share a picture
Question: Is it permissible to show a picture of a friend to my mother who is interested in a shidduch for my brother, without my friend knowing about it? … Read more »
Lashon Horah by posting a video
Question: 1) If one posts a video of someone else acting inappropriately, is that lashon horah? He isn’t “saying” anything? 2) If someone is acting inappropriately and one tells others… Read more »
Avak Rechilus when reminding about someone who didn’t listen
Question: Is it considered Avak Rechilus when I remind my mother that a sibling of mine didn’t listen to her and didn’t do the job she asked him to do?… Read more »
Lashon horah about a public speaker
Question: I find that many questions about lashon horah come up when discussing a shiur or lecture. Examples: 1) May one say that a certain speaker is “too dramatic”? 2)… Read more »
Slandering on the web
Question: 16 Av 5777 – August 8, ’17 I am working at a Kitchen Cabinet place, where there are set rules that I cannot allow delivery of merchandise before receiving… Read more »
Loshon Hora being equaled to all sins combined
Question: The Chofetz Chaim says that loshon hara is equal to all sins combined. He does quote the Yerushalmi 1:1 which says, “ותלמוד תורה כנגד כולן”. The Yerushalmi does not… Read more »
Loshon Hora
Question: One rabbi constantly talks loshon hora about 2 other rabbi’s for various reasons. He tried slandering 1 rav for the fact that some of his kids went OTD and… Read more »
Reform ‘convert’ pretends to be Jewish
Question: I am aware of a reform ‘convert’ in my city who travels often. He is in his early 50’s. He lets himself get counted for minyan in several orthodox… Read more »
Lashon Hara and psychological treatment
Question: Prominent arbiters have ruled that a child or grown up may “bad mouth”, criticize, express anger in therapy sessions towards their parents and others and the therapist may facilitate… Read more »
Advertise a telephone recording
Question: Good morning, on my android phone, I use a program (ACR) which allows me to record all phone calls, incoming and outgoing. Usualy I use it as a reminder,… Read more »
Loshon Hora
Question: Are you allowed to listen to loshon hora about a Jew from a non-Jew? Answer: One should not listen, because as a result of what he heard from the… Read more »
Loshon Hara in work place.
Question: Its has happened on several locations that my boss has asked me if a specific group of coworkers have been doing their job. This information can be found with… Read more »
Lashon Hara (clarity)
Question: Hello, I was wondering if I may have clarity on the specifics of lashon hara. You mentioned that if a statement can not be interpreted negatively, then it is… Read more »
Lashon Hara (specific)
Question: Hello, I have 3 short specific questions regarding lashon hara. 1. If the intent is good (making conversation, being nice) would it be fair to say the sentiment is… Read more »
Online Reviews
Question: Is there anything halachically or hashkafically wrong with writing a negative review online for a jewish establishment i.e. restaraunt etc. for which the customer had a bad experience? Answer:… Read more »
Lashon Hara during personal prayer?
Question: Hello, My question is: Is it possible to speak lashon hara during personal prayer (hitbodedut)? If sometimes I speak about other people to G-d so that I can try… Read more »
Lashon haea
Question: I emailed rabbi w Answer: Where do you want to publicize what you wrote? Sources:
loshon hara follow up
Question: I’d like a rav to read my review of the company I had a bad experience with and tell me if its ok to keep posted online or should… Read more »
Lashon hara q
Question: Hello to what extent can I say on websites how I disliked a school run by Jews without being over lashon hara thanks Answer: It is not loshon horo… Read more »
Loshon hara about a book
Question: Someone on a frum online writers forum posted an enthusiastic recommendation for a book. The author is a frum yeshiva man. I happened to have read part of the… Read more »